Dear Wiley-

i was on this date the other night, and while most of the conversation flowed quite nicely… i let slip something about why i don’t like soy products. big mistake!

i tried to back out of it - to say something frivolous and just let it slide. but my foot was firmly planted in mouth.

he pressed on - was he feigning interest? he said he was genuinely interested. I knew better - i knew that explaining the truth (my truth, at least) would be a bad idea.

I really need to learn how to skirt the issue delicately -to just play it off like nothing was mentioned.

sure it’s ok for me to talk about these things with friends, with people who already know me - we get into interesting exchanges of ideas…

but with people i’m meeting for the first time? never again!

Dear No Tofu-

You must keep telling your truth. If it resonates, he’s worth seeing again. However if you say you don’t want to talk about it, maybe another time, and he won’t stop- he’s a douche. He should respect a lady’s boundaries.

If they ask, go for it. If they are too pushy, simply say:

Hey, what is the max bandwidth on your email, dude? I’ll send you my dissertation on the subject.

Or

Dude, I’m taking my foot outta my mouf now and gonna put it up your butt.

But, some guys might like that too much.

Then ask if he’s heard the latest on Jamie Lynn and Brit. Skirted and skirted.